That was a great song, but how do you actually live your life without worry?? Unless you're on some kind of permanent vacation, how do you find happiness in a world that has so many challenges and tragedies? How do you manage to keep your balance between work and life without letting stress overtake you? Wouldn't it be great if we really could stop worrying and be happy?
Of course it's normal to have bouts of worry, doubt and unhappiness. But there is a big difference between "bouts" and chronic, ongoing sadness and worry. If you find that you just can't shake the grey cloud hanging over you, maybe it's time you asked yourself what is creating the worry, stress cycle that you are in. Here are 3 tips that might help you climb out of the worry rut:
Re-direct your thinking. When you think about something repeatedly, it ends up becoming part of your reality. I loved what Wayne Dyer used to say - " When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." It's true. But that doesn't mean it's easy to do. The key is to be mindful of how you are thinking and to realize when you start to focus only on what is worrying you, then it's time to remind yourself that the only thing you can do is stay in the present moment and not dwell on the past, or what might be happening in the future. All we have is now, so focus on the moment you are in...
Focus on appreciating what IS good in your life. Whatever brings you peace of mind or happiness is what you need to focus on when you catch yourself in the worry or anxiety rut. It doesn't matter if it's something as small as a great meal you just had, or a beautiful sunset you were able to see. Whatever it is that brings you a moment of peace and appreciation of life - that's the key. If you're lucky enough to have a great partner to share your life with or a best friend, cherish that and appreciate the fact that someone truly cares about you. The bottom line here is being grateful and appreciating what good things are currently a part of your life - gratitude is a game changer.
Stress happens when your mind resists what is. Life happens, and it's certainly not always the way we planned it. But we can really make things worse if we resist what life might be throwing at us. Take a deep breath and do what you can to go with the flow. Let things unfold and remind yourself that the only thing you can really control is the way you react to things.
I know that change does not come easy - it takes at least 21 days to create a new habit. But the first step is always mindfulness. Once you become self-aware and recognize negative patterns, that is when you start to make a change. One step at a time...
That's it for now... Until next time,
Here's to the road that lies ahead, here's to you!