Uh oh... I disappeared. I didn't intend to, but life happened. So, though my goal was to write at least one blog a week, I can't remember the last time I wrote. I've been silent. I've been immersed in some sad life stuff and it shut me down. So, as a result, I have not been writing... I've been silent. And that silence has activated my own inner dialogue that says "What's wrong with you?" "You need to snap out of it." But the truth is, sometimes you can't "snap out of it" and sometimes you need to "rest."
Can you relate? Have you ever just felt overwhelmed and shut down? What do you do? I think it's important to realize that when you get to that overwhelm place, you need to be especially kind to yourself. You truly need to "go with the flow." When you push yoursef in spite of your need to truly just stop for awhile and regroup, you are not allowing yourself to regain your balance. You pay the price for that, either by getting sick or depressed. But what you really need to do is practice good self care. Does your inner dialogue tell you what you "should be doing?" How does that make you feel? How do you re-direct yourself if you know that your head is telling you one thing but your heart is telling you another thing?
For me, I give myself permission. I actually tell myself it's ok to rest. It's ok to stop. It's ok to do NOTHING sometimes, because in that nothing place is where we regenerate. If you're like me, you expect a lot from yourself. Shutting down to "reboot" is not an option. You push on. No matter what. But I have learned that the "push on" has a price and we always end up paying it. I want to ask you not to pay that price. The next time you feel like you just need to rest, you feel overwhelmed, or you feel like everything in your life is getting out of control, STOP. Just stop. Give yourself permission to rest. Do what you need to do, but don't over do. You will find your rhythm again.
There are some sayings that I love (and don't remember who said them) -- "Don't Force The River" and "Allow The Rose To Unfold." They help remind me to just stop the push. When you feel like you're stuck, when you feel like you you need to retreat, honor that. Sometimes, nothing is the best thing we can do for ourselves...
That's it for now...
Until next time - "Live Now - Live Well!"